Monthly Archives: December 2011
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Celebrating Solo
What do the lonely do at Christmas?
That’s the question that the group, The Emotions ask in their unforgettable holiday song. Have you truly listened to the lyrics. That song is depressing! Don’t get me wrong it’s a nice song and I look forward to blasting it along with other Christmas Classics every year. Listening to it over and over would drive me insane! Click here to listen to the song……… http://youtu.be/rOn1gyor4mk
So here is my question…………Who said you had to be lonely for Christmas?
Many people will spend Christmas alone whether single, divorced, married. There are many reasons why people will be alone for Christmas but it doesn’t have to be a sad or depressing time. There are many things you can do to occupy your time during the holidays. The key is creating your own joy. Here is a list of things that you can do to make your holiday one to remember:
1. Break the normal holiday tradition and create your own tradition.
2. Consider an exotic island getaway-Bahamas, Jamaica, or Cancun.
3. Volunteer for a good cause-Shelters could always use the extra help. It would really warm your heart to help others.
4. Surround yourself with others that may be alone for Christmas and have a dinner party or go out and do something fun.
5. Indulge yourself in the things you like to do. Whether it is a cooking, watching movies, reading books, or creating something.
Don’t let the fact that you are alone, stop you from having fun on Christmas. There are many things that you could do by yourself on Christmas, that maybe will not be as much fun when done with someone. You never know, you may just have one of the best Christmases this year.
P.S. Whatever you do don’t listen to that song over and over! 
Share your thoughts or comments.
Truthseeker411
15 Years and Still Getting It
Who ever said sex stops after marriage should reconsider that statement or perhaps have a word with my friend Sasha. She has been married for 15 years and is still enjoying nights full of pleasure with her husband.
So I asked her did she really think that women stop having sex after marriage? Is it a myth or the truth?
Sasha can’t imagine not having sex with her husband. She said maybe for some women the myth is true but she can’t understand why. I told her a lot of women say because of their jobs, children, and maintaining a household it’s hard to make time for sex. They are too exhausted.Her reply, “I have all of those things, been married for 15 years, and my sex life is still thriving.” She said she looks forward to making love, having hot steamy sex, and totally being a super freak with her husband. Sex for her is a stress reliever. Once she gets a little nookie, she can conquer the world.
Another thing she said was that you have to keep it fresh. Don’t be afraid to try new things and be creative. She enjoys putting on a show for her husband and more importantly her husband enjoys the performance. She has a nice collection of lingerie, wigs, costumes, and stilettos.
She also said she takes full advantage when the children are not home. She moves her sexual escapades to various parts of the house. She said getting some good ass fantastic loving doesn’t have to be limited to the bedroom. Her house is filled with places to do the horizontal polka. She likes being the aggressor from time to time………well most of the time. Being the initiator is a great turn-on for most men. It makes for a hellacious orgasmic night of passion, fireworks, or perhaps the neighbors knowing more than just your name 
This conversation took place a couple of weeks ago. It was myself, Sasha, and two other women. I was the only single woman and I really enjoyed hearing what they had to say about sex after marriage. Especially Sasha!!! By the end of the conversation, she started having flashbacks of nights of ecstasy with her hubbie. She told us she had to leave. She and her husband were going to be home alone and she had to get her freak on! Too be honest, I think the other ladies went home and took advantage of their husbands in a kinky sexy kind of way.
According to this article, it isn’t a myth that women stop having sex after marriage. www.momlogic.com/2008/09/sexless_marriage_survey.php One thing is for certain, there is always an outlier. Just look at Sasha. She has been married for 15 years and still getting it!
Her last words were………..if my husband cheats or has ever cheated, it’s not or wouldn’t be because he isn’t fulfilled sexually. She declares she brings her A game to the bedroom.
To all the married women……….Have you stopped having sex since being married? Are you still getting it in like Sasha? What are your thoughts?
To all the married men………..Are you in a sexless marriage or are you getting the good-good from your wife? Share your thoughts.
Single people you are more than welcome to chime in.
Truthseeker411
Related articles
- Diary of a Married Woman: Ep 1! (aprillaugh.wordpress.com)
- Married Women Hate Sex www.momlogic.com/2008/09/sexless_marriage_survey.php
- Married Women Hate Sex 2 www.momlogic.com/html_pages/married_woman/2.php
- Married Women Hate Sex 3 www.momlogic.com/html_pages/married_woman/3.php
- The Joys of Sneaking Sex www.momlogic.com/2008/08/the_joys_of_sneaking_sex.php
- The Reason for the Sexless Marriage (sincemydivorce.com)
- A Sexless Marriage (sincemydivorce.com)
- Fix Your Sexless Marriage….. (socyberty.com)
Does Size Really Matter?
This topic is pretty controversial and has been debated over and over. We all think about it from time to time. It’s enough to get the women excited and the men pissed. Can we reach a general consensus on this much debated topic? Think about it……….Women, we wait our whole lives for this moment and we want it to be special and memorable. We want to overflow with energy and excitement. We want our man to give it his all. For some of us, it’s a deal breaker if he doesn’t come through. So I ask the age-old question…..Does size really matter?
Every woman can’t wait until the day that special guy proposes. We often think about the setting, the outfit, the moment. Oh wait! Did you think I was talking about penis size? Ha! get your mind out of the gutter!
We place a lot of emphasis on bling partly because of the superficial world we live in. Everybody had something to say about Beyoncé‘s 18 carat ring and Kim Kardashian‘s 2 million dollar ring.
I’ve had this conversation with girlfriends and it’s amazing how many different opinions we have on the topic. Some friends say yes size does matter to them because they really don’t want a small ring that you can barely see. On the flip side some say they don’t want a huge gaudy ring. I have some friends that say it doesn’t matter , it’s really what’s in his heart that matters. One friend said it doesn’t matter but she would feel some kind of way if her man gave her a tiny bite-size ring. Another friend said she would hope a man does his best to impress since he is trying to spend the rest of his life with his woman.
There are even some rules of thumb a man should consider when he buys an engagement ring. One in particular is that a man should spend at least 10% of his annual salary or several months of his monthly salary on the engagement ring. I don’t know who came up with that but many tend to follow that rule of thumb. Another rule of thumb is a man should do what he can financially. He shouldn’t go overboard if he can’t afford to.
I had to include the men in this discussion. I asked a couple of guys does size really matter. One guy said should the ring even matter at all. He said engagement rings are a bunch of commercial hype to get men to spend more money. It’s basically an attention getter for the women. During that time everyone oohs and ahhs over the ring. The other guy said it shouldn’t be about the size of the ring but it’s the thought that counts. He went on to say why go big or extravagant in the beginning. What would happen by the 10 or 25 year anniversary?
So what does Truthseeker411 think? Well in my opinion the size shouldn’t matter. The marriage should matter. Often people do get caught up in the hype of being engaged and planning the wedding, they don’t think about what happens after. Maybe that’s why there are so many divorces. Don’t get me wrong, it’s exciting to get that beautiful ring but we should not put unnecessary pressure on a man to buy a huge or very expensive ring. Think about him bringing that debt to the marriage. You might end of paying for your ring in the long run. I would also have to agree with what one of the guys said. If you start out extremely big, what do you have to build up to? It would be very nice to have a more beautiful ring for my 10, 15, or 25 year anniversary.
I have a story for you…………………
One of my very good friend’s has been married for close to ten years now. When her husband proposed, he didn’t give her the ring of her dreams. It was smaller than she preferred but she didn’t say no. Why? She knew that he was a good man, he would be a great provider, and most importantly she loved him. Since they have been married he has provided a very good life for them and their children. Knowing my friend, she would probably say ring size does matter because she would like her ring to be a little bigger. Even with that being said, she wouldn’t trade her life for anything. I truly think he is going to upgrade her ring and that will make it all worth it in the end.
This is a pretty hot topic and I am not sure a general consensus would ever be met. It makes for a good red-hot discussion between men and women. So let the discussion continue……….
Does the size of the ring really matter?
Truthseeker411
Related articles
- How Much Should Men Spend on Engagement Rings (thediamondringreview.com)
