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The Ladies and the Season for Open Toed Shoes
Ladies it’s spring and I know we are ready to rock the latest open toed shoe. You’ve seen this before in email chains, if not check it out. Before you go struttin your stuff, stand up and take the pledge.
The Open Toed Shoe Pledge
As a member of the Cute Girl Sisterhood, I pledge to follow the Rules when wearing sandals and other open-toe shoes:
I promise to always wear sandals that fit. My toes will not hang over and touch the ground, nor will my heels spill over the backs. And the sides and tops of my feet will not pudge out between the straps.
I will go polish-free or vow to keep the polish fresh, intact and chip-free. I will not cheat and just touch up my big toe.
I will sand down any mounds of skin before they turn hard and yellow. I will shave the hairs off my big toe.
I won’t wear pantyhose even if my misinformed girlfriend, coworker, mother, sister tells me the toe seam really will stay under my toes if I tuck it there.
If a strap breaks, I won’t duct-tape, pin, glue or tuck it back into place hoping it will stay put. I will get my shoe fixed or toss it.
I will not live in corn denial; rather I will lean on my good friend Dr. Scholl’s if my feet need him.
I will resist the urge to buy jelly shoes at Payless for the low, low price of $4.99 even if my feet are small enough to fit into the kids’ sizes. This is out of concern for my safety, and the safety of others. No one can walk properly when standing in a pool of sweat and I would hate to take someone down with me as I fall and break my ankle.
I will take my toe ring off toward the end of the day if my toes swell and begin to look like Vienna sausages.
I will be brutally honest with my girlfriend/sister/coworker when she asks me if her feet are too ugly to wear sandals. Someone has to tell her that her toes are as long as my fingers and no sandal makes creepy feet look good.
I will promise if I wear flip-flops that I will make sure that they actually flip and flop, making the correct noise while walking and I will swear NOT to slide or drag my feet while wearing them.
I will promise to go to my local nail salon at least once per season atleast once a month and have a real pedicure (they range from $15-$30 and worth EVERY penny).
I will promise to throw away any white/off-white sandals that show signs of wear… nothing is tackier than dirty white sandals.
Please share with your sista friends!
Happy Spring!!!
Truthseeker411
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Truthseeker’s Reflections of 2011
As I sit and reflect on 2011, I truly can say it was very interesting. I didn’t have a lot of drama or scandals but I think a few things that stood out to me. Where should I start…Let’s see!
One of My Accomplishments
I accomplished many small things in 2011. I won’t name them all but one accomplishment does come to mind. By April 2011 I was 25 pounds lighter and loving it! Just in time to rock the latest spring fashions. Hopefully I can lose a few more pounds this year 
The Funniest or Most Embarrassing Thing That Happened to Me
In the Spring of 2011, I had a blind date to a Spring Gala. After losing 25 pounds I was very excited about dressing up and being a princess for the night. Not to mention having a an escort. Let’s just say it was a #fail. My blind date arrived to escort me to the gala and I wanted to run for the hills. He didn’t look anything like his picture. He was not an attractive person at all. He closely resembled a camel. He had a very strange look. I don’t know what the hell he did to his pictures, but I couldn’t believe my eyes. He had on a tuxedo that just didn’t do anything for him and to top it all off he had a beanie looking hat on his head. The nice girl in me proceeded with the date but the mean girl in me wanted to tell him the date was off. We arrived to the gala. I slowly walked to the door because I just did not want to enter with Shrek. I just wanted that night to end quickly. I didn’t introduce him to anybody, wouldn’t dance with him, and barely held a conversation with him. I kept thinking how did I get myself in this dilemma. Needless to say, I survived the gala but you better believe my friends did not let me live it down. As a gag gift for my birthday, they framed a picture of me and a camel’s face on a male’s body. The look on my face was priceless! The lesson learned from this experience is don’t let a blind date escort you to a major function.
The Most Shocking News I Received
Back in June, my ex I dated for six years shared some very big news with me. My ex and I had this very long and intense relationship. I guess you can say he was my first love. Everyone expected us to get married, including him and me. When you thought of Truthseeker, you instantly thought of Night Rider. That’s just the way it was. We’ve been broken up for years and moved on with other people but there’s always this connection. Any who, we have become very good friends over the years. He shared with me that he was going to be a father. He was not happy about the news because he and the mommy to be are not exactly the happy couple. I’m listening to him and trying to come to grips with this announcement. I was totally shocked. I never would have predicted that. I was feeling some kind of way about his big news, but why? After all we have been broken up for nine years. Mr. Night Rider is still trying to come to terms with being a father. He always felt that I would be the mother of his child(ren). I guess in a way I did too.
The Most Surprising Thing I Did
The most surprising thing I did in 2011 was starting this blog. It’s still very surreal at times because I have never done anything like this. It’s kind of funny because I do enjoy writing. I have written poems, skits, and short stories but never have I wanted to share them. One of my friends actually suggested I start this blog because I would always joke about writing a book about dating experiences. Some friends tell have said me starting a blog isn’t a shocker to them but I disagree. However,I am glad I did start The Truth About Dating and I am grateful for my friend who suggested it. It has become a very fun and therapeutic hobby. I wish I could write a post everyday but the Ph.D program takes most of my time. I will continue to post when time allows. I have a few topics written in my notebook. Stay tuned!
Moving Ahead
Twenty-Twelve is here now and I am excited about what’s in store for me. I didn’t make any resolutions because I know I will not follow through. Instead I have set a few attainable goals. Goals I know I can reach. It’s going to be a good year! 2012 is the year of possibilities!
Alright Truthseeker Fans, share some of the things you experienced in 2011. Whether it was funny, horrible, outrageous, or just plain silly.
Truthseeker411
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Your Truth About Dating9-12-11
Hey Truthseeker,
Here is my truth about a liar story. I am having a hot and steamy fling with my boss. It’s has been going on since the beginning of the year. It’s a lot of fun but I think people at work are starting to notice. I don’t want that to happen. Oh by the way, my boss isn’t married. He’s divorced but he isn’t looking for anything serious and neither am I. I am really enjoying him but I don’t want this to affect the work environment. I’m starting to get weird stares from people. What should I do?
R Scott from Atlanta
Dear R Scott from Atlanta,
I love that you are having fun but it is tough to pull off those workplace romances. They can become very tricky. I have always been told “Don’t play where you get your pay”. The good news is that your boss isn’t married….Whew!!!! The bad news is if people at work have noticed, then let the gossip begin. I don’t recommend workplace romance but you are already involved. I would say try to be as discreet as possible, watch where you go in public, watch the flirting in the office, don’t tell anyone, and don’t let it affect your work. You and your boss have been hanging out since the beginning of the year, that’s a little long for a fling. Be careful!
Truthseeker411
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Dear Truthseeker411,
I just have to share my truth about a liar story. Last fall I met this guy in the military. I went to visit him in January and we had a wonderful time. It was supposed to be a weekend trip but I got snowed in. My flight was cancelled. Anyway, the guy all of sudden started acting different. It was very awkward. I couldn’t wait ti get home. I was finally able to go home. Well once I got home I found out that the guy was married. he had gotten married 2 weeks prior to me coming to visit. His wife is also in the military and she was stationed somewhere else. I was so pissed with him. I confronted him and of course he tried to lie but I knew better. He told me to never call him again and that’s when I had to get my sweet little revenge. A few weeks later I told him I was pregnant. He started freaking out and saying it’s not mine and I can’t deal with this right now. I kept this going for months and he didn’t want anything part of this. He was so afraid his wife was going to find out. I was laughing on the inside. I know it was mean but I had to get him back. LOL I just had to share this story.
Yours truly,
Scandalous in MS
Dear Scandalous in MS,
You are too much for words! I don’t think I could do something like that even though the guy is a jerk. I can’t believe he was cheating on his wife 2 weeks after the wedding. I’m sure you scared him pretty good. Hopefully he will think twice about cheating again. I don’t condone or promote revenge but this was pretty damn funny.
Shaking my damn head,
Truthseeker411
Do you have any advice or comments for R Scott and Scandalous?
The Green Light
Know your worth……….Your stock just went up!
Sometimes we find ourselves in situations that we don’t want to be in; yet we don’t want to make a move and get out of it. Being in a relationship that is toxic clearly is a waste of time. We tend to hang in there in hopes that it will get better or that the person will change. Sometimes we stay in relationships because of the amount of years together or simply because we are just too afraid to move on. The truth of the matter is if a person doesn’t value you or the relationship…………you probably shouldn’t be with them. Life is too short to settle for anything less.
There is this guy I know. He is a very nice, intelligent, and respectable man. He’s educated, attractive, and financially stable. The problem is he is with a woman that doesn’t respect him or value the relationship. He treats her like a queen but she doesn’t appreciate it. She takes him for granted all the time. She doesn’t spend time with him. She hangs out with friends all the time. She doesn’t contribute anything to the relationship. He has confronted her many times and she would temporarily clean up her act. Then it’s back to the same thing. She knows he isn’t going to leave. He has proven that over and over. They have been dating for a few years now. At one point he wanted to marry her but now he knows that wouldn’t be wise. Still he can’t let go. He says he has invested a lot of time in the relationship and he is hoping she will change. He doesn’t want to start over with someone else.
I know what many of you are thinking; especially the ladies……………this guy is stupid!
The thing is ladies, we have been guilty of doing the same thing. It’s easy to see when we are watching the scene but when we are the actual character, we are blinded. Ladies have stayed in relationships that are not going anywhere since the beginning of time. For whatever the reason is, I know a lot of women who have been in his shoes. We think they will change or get better. We don’t want to let all of those years go to waste. Oh and let’s not forget this one………….not having the courage to move on!
Always know your worth! Never settle for anything. Don’t stay in a relationship that isn’t happy, healthy, or isn’t going anywhere. Have the courage to walk away. If they can’t reciprocate what you give in the relationship, someone else can. Tell them they got the green light, so stop holding up traffic and GO!
Check out this video http://youtu.be/cZ17obs-bYM?t=1m9s
Have you ever been or stayed in a dead-end relationship? Do you know your worth? Have you ever had to give someone the green light?
Truthseeker411
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